I can see where people are coming from in criticizing the doggedness of men to take stories that are not about them and somehow make it about them. My Little Pony porn being posted to the MLP main tag, a tag followed by thousands of kids, on tumblr springs to mind. There were several bad actors that could not be convinced that they were creating a chilling environment and ruining things for little girls, despite being told such by actual little girls.

And when women and non-men take men's stories and make them about non-cishet men or about the female side characters then we are terrible pornographers who have to be chased off of blogging platforms, even when stuff is tagged correctly or posted in locked communities. (Yes, I am still bitter about LJ)

Sometimes we get cease and desist orders. Sometimes we get sued. Not all of the C&D'ed webrings were hosted by women or had greater than average female participation, but when people wanted to portray a delegitimizing picture of such fandoms, they were heavily painted as being for women and effeminate or gay men.

Mens stories are "legitimate" in the mainstream in a way that womens and queer folk's stories are not, so to make them more "legitimate" to men, the women/ whoever in the stories must virtuously suffer. Women suffer, queer men suffer, lesbians suffer and die in a proportion much higher than anyone else ...

There is so much about our culture that makes me want to cry, vomit, shake things, and send everyone to therapy.