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[feotakahari]

Probably an obvious take: when folks say “men should take care of women,” they tend to be really bad at planning for what to do when men within their community don’t take care of women. Women can easily end up in situations where they need to protect themselves but aren’t allowed to.

A less obvious take: I think the same often goes for “adults should take care of children.”

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[feotakahari]

My cousin has two kids, and she’s having a hell of a time trying to raise them by herself while also holding down a job. But her ex’s daughter by another woman is clearly being neglected, so she’s trying to help her as well, and it’s all so much for her to shoulder. I don’t know what the optimal solution is, but there has to be something better than the way things are now.

[lb_lee]

Sneak: Same! The best I can imagine right now is a stronger sense of community child-rearing, and less focus on a nuclear family. Obviously, it doesn't work if the barrel is full of rotten apples, but in a case of parental stress or incapacitation, that's less devastating if you have, say, uncles or aunts or grandparents living nearby, or a neighborhood tradition of caring for each other's children.

That presumes that the family stays in one place though, and that the neighbors or extended family are trustworthy...