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[feotakahari]

I’m not gonna tag OP, because I’m being rude here. I’m just thinking out loud.

So, you identify as female, and you present as masc, and to you, there’s no contradiction there. You’re happy with having a masc-looking body.

You pursue lesbians, and things get “awkward” real fast.

So why not pursue people who’re attracted to masc-looking bodies? Because frankly, it seems like you’re pinning too much of your identity as a lesbian on the idea of dating lesbians. If a straight girl thinks you’re cute, and she’s willing to call you “she,” what’s the problem?

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[cream_and_custard]

I was never dating anyone when I was in this position, but I get it. That strong longing of external validation. Dreaming of just being able to seamlessly fall into the role you see yourself as without explanation.

If they actually don't want to date straight girls, it's probably the fear that your partner doesn't see you as the gender you identify as (because if they did, why would they be straight). I don't think it's good to put so much of your validation on others but that's just kind of how a lot of people are regardless of being trans lol. Plus this being a person that's one of the closest to you.

With trans people becoming more prominent I find that our current labels sexuality are less useful anyways seeing that anyone of any gender can look anyway. I hope more people can love without worrying about such things.