I had more than one possible response here

I'm not going to name the person I'm quoting, because it feels like that would be forcing them to engage. They can respond to this or not, as they please.

Every time one of these Gay Dudebros (and why are they almost always White gay dudebros???) brings up that how I write BL fiction is fetishization, I have to overcome the burning urge to smack them with a thesis on how BL has nothing to do with Actual Real Life Men whatsoever. Because, you know, it doesn't. It's women's fantasies, written by women, for women, featuring women-oriented aesthetics. If gay men want to read pounding meat action ... isn't that what Chuck Tingle is for? Like gods forbid fiction exist that isn't to their very narrow tastes!

Imagine that person A writes porn about black men with giant dicks who love to rape white women. Person B is black, and complains about it. Person A says that it's porn by white people for white people, and person B should go read something else. What kind of emotions would you feel regarding Person A's statement?

(If your response is that white stereotypes of black people are different from female stereotypes of gay men because gay men have more power and/or privilege than women do, go douse yourself in cold water right now.)

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At the doctor’s office the other day. The man at the front desk said there was an issue with my insurance, and they needed my signature to confirm that I would pay if the insurance didn’t. Nothing to worry about; it was just that I’d changed insurance recently, so they didn’t have everything ironed out yet.

I asked him the likelihood that I would be told to pay twenty thousand dollars I didn’t have. He said it was fifty seven thousand dollars. He also said the odds were about zero percent that I’d actually have to pay.

Of course I fucking signed. If I don’t get my medicine, I bleed my guts out and die. And of course the insurance refused to pay, and the hospital wants its fifty seven thousand dollars.

Fuck this. Fuck everything.