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Jan. 13th, 2019 05:52 pmI don’t think you’re ever morally obligated to be friends with someone.
When I was younger, I thought my brother T was a jerk. He was well aware of his incredible intelligence, and he looked down on people when he thought they were “acting stupid.” If they showed too much emotion, or showed emotion about what he considered the wrong things, he would make fun of them. He didn’t seem to care if he hurt people’s feelings.
He went off to college, and apparently, he grew up. He’s not as hurtful as he used to be, and it’s easier to hold a conversation with him. He gets along better with my mother, and she says he wants to get along with me, too.
It’s not that I hold any particular grudge against T. I could interact with him if I felt I had to. But I don’t care enough about T to miss him or want him back in my life. To put it simply, I’m not interested in him anymore.
I believe that friendship, like love, is an act that requires the consent of both parties, and I don’t think you necessarily need a “valid reason” to dissolve it. It can be as simple as saying “I don’t want to do this anymore.”
When I was younger, I thought my brother T was a jerk. He was well aware of his incredible intelligence, and he looked down on people when he thought they were “acting stupid.” If they showed too much emotion, or showed emotion about what he considered the wrong things, he would make fun of them. He didn’t seem to care if he hurt people’s feelings.
He went off to college, and apparently, he grew up. He’s not as hurtful as he used to be, and it’s easier to hold a conversation with him. He gets along better with my mother, and she says he wants to get along with me, too.
It’s not that I hold any particular grudge against T. I could interact with him if I felt I had to. But I don’t care enough about T to miss him or want him back in my life. To put it simply, I’m not interested in him anymore.
I believe that friendship, like love, is an act that requires the consent of both parties, and I don’t think you necessarily need a “valid reason” to dissolve it. It can be as simple as saying “I don’t want to do this anymore.”
