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Sep. 7th, 2022 09:23 pmI feel like, if people are giving money to your organization and it’s not doing its job, then people could just as easily give that money to a different organization that’s more effectual. So maybe you should let your dysfunctional nonprofit go under.
What kind of idiots are you interviewing?
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Jun. 4th, 2020 11:44 amThe thing about Ask a Manager is that you get responses from a manager. You’d get very different responses if this was Ask a Communist Revolutionary.
(I didn’t actually intend this to be that flippant. There are points where a communist revolutionary would probably have better views than a manager. But Ask a Manager is good for knowing what perspective a manager is going to have when you try to talk to them.)
I’m reading Ask a Manager
Nov. 29th, 2019 10:18 pm“I got sick at work the other day … A coworker volunteered to drive me to a nearby ER … She is now in trouble for giving me a ride to the hospital and may be formally disciplined … She was told I put them at risk of a lawsuit, which I don’t understand.”
Lots of people in the comments are explaining why it was bad to drive OP, and saying Coworker should have called an ambulance. People in the comments who have the same condition as the OP are explaining why it would be bad to call an ambulance. Just for good measure, one person said to call an ambulance “or at least an Uber,” and a commenter who worked for Uber is explaining why it would be bad to call an Uber. So what option would not be bad?
Why Religious Exemptions Are Bullshit
Dec. 8th, 2018 06:52 pmAn employee, “Sally,” started at our workplace about a year and a half ago … I heard her correct someone who referred to her boyfriend as her boyfriend/partner, saying that he wasn’t her partner, he was her master, and should be referred to using his appropriate title. She compared it to gay rights, saying that if she was a man, they wouldn’t erase her relationship by referring to “Peter” as “Patricia,” and so they shouldn’t erase the D/s relationship by calling him a partner instead of a master.
Ask a Manager’s response: it’s her own personal thing, but she has no right to drag you into it. Keep pushing back.
I’m a manager who has an employee who recently (late last year) accepted a promotion that involves travel … She accepted the position knowing that this level of travel would be required.
However, she told me last week that she will no longer travel because her husband told her no and her religion tells her to obey her husband … She says it has to be accommodated because it’s her sincerely-held religion.
I also know her husband recently took away her car because “queens don’t drive.” … She can no longer attend external meetings alone because she doesn’t have transportation, which has created problems already.
Ask a Manager’s response: get a lawyer, because this is gonna be ugly.
Intolerant of Their Intolerance
Dec. 8th, 2018 06:44 pmI saw a post on Ask a Manager about an office organizing donations to the Salvation Army. The OP wasn’t comfortable with this, due to the Salvation Army’s refusal to support gay people. In the course of suggesting alternatives, a different poster said they wouldn’t be comfortable giving money to Doctors Without Borders because that organization “promotes abortion.” That turned into a derail about abortion politics, so the moderator started removing comments.
One person posted this: “Your website, of course free to moderate the comments as you see fit. But sure – abortion as a nonstarter for charities is off-limits but Christian affiliation/views are a legit concern. Word.”
This was the moderator’s reply (emphasis mine): “Why wouldn’t the topic of religiously affiliated charities at work — in the comments on a post about exactly that — be on topic? Abortion politics aren’t relevant to the question the letter writer asked. (That said, little of the conversation here is about religious affiliation; it’s about discrimination.)”
The moderator was expressing her thoughts about religion and discrimination in the same sense I would think: that the two are separate categories. How religious you are is unrelated to how anti-gay you are, and statements you make about the fact that someone is anti-gay are unrelated to statements you make about the fact that someone is religious. Someone who is not religious may be anti-gay, and someone who is religious may not be anti-gay.
The poster she responded to was thinking in the sense that being religious and discriminating against gay people are synonymous. If you don’t like that an organization discriminates against gay people, then you don’t like that this organization is religious. If you ask an organization to stop discriminating against gay people, then you are asking that organization to give up being religious.
I understand now why all those anti-gay people insist everyone else is being intolerant of their religion, and frankly, the thought scares the hell out of me.
