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Oct. 3rd, 2019 06:03 amIt’s hard to express why I recoil so much from any form of D/S in fiction, no matter how mild. An attempt:
1): I really, really hate being touched. A lot of people assume that everyone who says they don’t want to be touched will start wanting it after being touched. D/S fiction often involves the dom repeatedly pushing the sub into situations they didn’t want, but turn out to enjoy, and there’s never any backlash from being pushed too far.
2): I’m instinctively helpful. If someone has a problem, and I have time to spare, I will immediately start helping them out, even if it’s not my responsibility. The catch is that I keep forgetting that other people don’t do this, so I’m always caught off guard when I have a problem and the people I helped don’t do anything to help me. In D/S fiction, I wind up raging at the doms who expect to be served and never serve.
3): There’s a degree of overlap between D/S and bimbo, largely in the direction of bimbo subs. The thing I most value about myself is my ability to make my own decisions, and I tend to extrapolate that outwards, assuming that most people have rational goals and will make the right choices if given the support and resources to do so. I get angry at the idea of the subby bimbo who’s too stupid to run their own life and needs a dom to tell them what to do.
4): I’m interested in morphological freedom, and for whatever reason, there is a LOT of overlap between morphological freedom and D/S, making the latter hard to avoid.
If this seems like it doesn’t cover that much fiction, you’re underestimating what I react to. Even stuff like Luxaren Allure or Cute Demon Crashers, where the D/S elements are super mild, is enough for me to start panicking and feeling all skin-crawly. Not to mention the prevalence of untagged A/B/O, and the tendency of both het and M/M romance to have one character be the “guy” who doms the “girl.” (One of the reasons I read so much F/F is that it tends not to have a dom.)
Now that I think about it, you could argue that the actual reason I’m so massively anti-monarchist is that I refuse to sub for a king . . .
1): I really, really hate being touched. A lot of people assume that everyone who says they don’t want to be touched will start wanting it after being touched. D/S fiction often involves the dom repeatedly pushing the sub into situations they didn’t want, but turn out to enjoy, and there’s never any backlash from being pushed too far.
2): I’m instinctively helpful. If someone has a problem, and I have time to spare, I will immediately start helping them out, even if it’s not my responsibility. The catch is that I keep forgetting that other people don’t do this, so I’m always caught off guard when I have a problem and the people I helped don’t do anything to help me. In D/S fiction, I wind up raging at the doms who expect to be served and never serve.
3): There’s a degree of overlap between D/S and bimbo, largely in the direction of bimbo subs. The thing I most value about myself is my ability to make my own decisions, and I tend to extrapolate that outwards, assuming that most people have rational goals and will make the right choices if given the support and resources to do so. I get angry at the idea of the subby bimbo who’s too stupid to run their own life and needs a dom to tell them what to do.
4): I’m interested in morphological freedom, and for whatever reason, there is a LOT of overlap between morphological freedom and D/S, making the latter hard to avoid.
If this seems like it doesn’t cover that much fiction, you’re underestimating what I react to. Even stuff like Luxaren Allure or Cute Demon Crashers, where the D/S elements are super mild, is enough for me to start panicking and feeling all skin-crawly. Not to mention the prevalence of untagged A/B/O, and the tendency of both het and M/M romance to have one character be the “guy” who doms the “girl.” (One of the reasons I read so much F/F is that it tends not to have a dom.)
Now that I think about it, you could argue that the actual reason I’m so massively anti-monarchist is that I refuse to sub for a king . . .
