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Jan. 27th, 2023 11:26 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
feotakahariRelated to one of tonight’s earlier rants: my biggest problem with being told that I’m being condescending or holier-than-thou or whatever is that I don’t see what it has to do with what I said. If I’m being condescending when I say the capital of the U.S. is Washington, D.C., that doesn’t make me wrong, and if I’m not being condescending when I say the capital of the U.S. is New York, that doesn’t make me right. I’m not trying to make a statement that I’m smart or talented or whatever. I’m trying to make a statement about the thing I made a statement about. And I’m sure it’s condescending to explain that, but at that point, fuck you.
I recognize the hypocrisy of arguing this while also arguing that you need to be able to convince people to listen to you. But a lot of the time, it doesn’t seem like there’s a way to state my case without being called condescending. The only thing I could possibly do that wouldn’t get called condescending is say nothing and pretend to agree. I play the social game because there’s at least a theoretical possibility of winning, and if I can’t ever win, I might as well flip the board over.
I recognize the hypocrisy of arguing this while also arguing that you need to be able to convince people to listen to you. But a lot of the time, it doesn’t seem like there’s a way to state my case without being called condescending. The only thing I could possibly do that wouldn’t get called condescending is say nothing and pretend to agree. I play the social game because there’s at least a theoretical possibility of winning, and if I can’t ever win, I might as well flip the board over.
